Comments on: For God has NOT given us a spirit of fear… http://family.kentuckystudio.com/2009/11/12/for-god-has-not-given-us-a-spirit-of-fear/ Just another WordPress weblog Fri, 23 Jul 2010 10:38:16 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: Honestly http://family.kentuckystudio.com/2009/11/12/for-god-has-not-given-us-a-spirit-of-fear/comment-page-1/#comment-2238 Honestly Sun, 15 Nov 2009 01:23:35 +0000 http://family.kentuckystudio.com/?p=11637#comment-2238 Sounds like Meha and Pa need some professional help! Sounds like Meha and Pa need some professional help!

]]> By: Meha http://family.kentuckystudio.com/2009/11/12/for-god-has-not-given-us-a-spirit-of-fear/comment-page-1/#comment-2237 Meha Sat, 14 Nov 2009 15:37:11 +0000 http://family.kentuckystudio.com/?p=11637#comment-2237 I have been praying for a year for the hate and cruelty to come to an end. I didn't cause the problem between the two of you. You had been in a similar situation before and got in it again. I am Troy's mother but he is a man now, and being 27 at the time, married with three children, he did not need his mother to tell him what to do. By the way, I talked to him a few months before everything came out. Dad talked to him when he was at our house, and neither one of us made a difference. So, we had tried, but he made his own decision about what to do. We were in a no win situation either way and we were put there by you. But, this is not about any of us. It is about our grandchildren. They should not be withheld from us as punishment. Desperate times call for desperate means. I am writing this on the blog since neither of you can actually speak to us even on the phone, and Troy said that he erases a voice mail before listening to it because he doesn't want to hear what I have to say, or even bring yourselves to come to our house to talk. Meeting at McDonald's to see our grandchildren because you don't trust us, is really sad. Troy, I am sorry you don't trust me not to ask Owen what has been said to him. I wouldn't do that to him. We even came to keep the kids when you called last November when Am had to go to the hospital even though Am had already decided that we weren't to see them-you did tell me that Amber decided where the children went and that she always did. Owen told Pa that night that he wasn't supposed to be in that house, and he had even told me not sit so close to him. (I wouldn't have to ask Owen anything because he had already shown us that a lot had been said in front of him.) If you can not even speak to either of us, how on earth can we even begin to make things better? Since you can not even speak to us, does that mean if we get to see them, that you still won't speak to us? A year is a long time, Troy, to harbor all those evil feelings. I believe that God teaches that the man is the head of the household and that people are to forgive. Troy, you cancelled our "meeting" with the kids, but I could still have been there. Owen still has not gotten his birthday gift from us. By the way, your sister ( oh, friends of theirs, Sabrina has Down Syndrome and has worshipped her brother from day one)-anyway, she is hurt that you didn't acknowledge her birthday which was 2 days before Owen's. Bri's practice was for a group rhythmic gymnastics team she is on that gave an exhibition at the Muhammed Ali Center in Louisville, which was very important to her. I did not know about it at the time that you told us when we could come watch the kids play at McDonald's. That is why they couldn't be there. When your Mom called us, Amber, she said that your friends had called you wanting to know what was wrong with your mother-in-law. Okay, people---this is waht is wrong with me: we are not being allowed to see our grandchildren because I didn't tell Troy to go home, but he was a 27 year old grown man with 3 children, and it was none of my business, just like nothing else they decided was my business the last 9 years. We DID "support" Troy then and both of you in anything you did for the last 9 years. That IS what parents do. I know this is probably making you angry, but I don't have any other way of contacting you since you erase any voice mail I leave without listening to it, answer my e-mails, return calls, or even come to our house to speak to us or get all your clothes or even the kids clothes. Nothing in our house contaminates things that I know of. You didn't even contact me back when I told you I was going to have heart surgery. See you really did break my heart by doing all this.I needed to see the kids before the surgery because you never know what might happen, but you never returned my call after I saw the cardiologist to even see when I was going in the hospital. The possibility of a heart/lung transplant was mentioned by the doctor and I was really scared. I am disappointed that you all didn't care. Some may say that leaving a comment could make things worse, but I don't see how anything in this world is worse than not being able to see your grandchildren!!!! Anyway, we love you and really want to be able to see the kids. We have lost a year that cannot be replaced - EVER. This is really hard on me and puts a lot of stress on me which I am not supposed to have, in addition to your Dad losing his job after 28 years when the plant was sold to a business out of state. He is under a lot of stress and still has not found a job. Your Dad needs you now, Troy---can't you be there for him? He has always been there for you. I have been praying for a year for the hate and cruelty to come to an end. I didn’t cause the problem between the two of you. You had been in a similar situation before and got in it again. I am Troy’s mother but he is a man now, and being 27 at the time, married with three children, he did not need his mother to tell him what to do. By the way, I talked to him a few months before everything came out. Dad talked to him when he was at our house, and neither one of us made a difference. So, we had tried, but he made his own decision about what to do. We were in a no win situation either way and we were put there by you. But, this is not about any of us. It is about our grandchildren. They should not be withheld from us as punishment.
Desperate times call for desperate means. I am writing this on the blog since neither of you can actually speak to us even on the phone, and Troy said that he erases a voice mail before listening to it because he doesn’t want to hear what I have to say, or even bring yourselves to come to our house to talk. Meeting at McDonald’s to see our grandchildren because you don’t trust us, is really sad. Troy, I am sorry you don’t trust me not to ask Owen what has been said to him. I wouldn’t do that to him. We even came to keep the kids when you called last November when Am had to go to the hospital even though Am had already decided that we weren’t to see them-you did tell me that Amber decided where the children went and that she always did. Owen told Pa that night that he wasn’t supposed to be in that house, and he had even told me not sit so close to him. (I wouldn’t have to ask Owen anything because he had already shown us that a lot had been said in front of him.) If you can not even speak to either of us, how on earth can we even begin to make things better? Since you can not even speak to us, does that mean if we get to see them, that you still won’t speak to us? A year is a long time, Troy, to harbor all those evil feelings. I believe that God teaches that the man is the head of the household and that people are to forgive. Troy, you cancelled our “meeting” with the kids, but I could still have been there. Owen still has not gotten his birthday gift from us. By the way, your sister ( oh, friends of theirs, Sabrina has Down Syndrome and has worshipped her brother from day one)-anyway, she is hurt that you didn’t acknowledge her birthday which was 2 days before Owen’s. Bri’s practice was for a group rhythmic gymnastics team she is on that gave an exhibition at the Muhammed Ali Center in Louisville, which was very important to her. I did not know about it at the time that you told us when we could come watch the kids play at McDonald’s. That is why they couldn’t be there. When your Mom called us, Amber, she said that your friends had called you wanting to know what was wrong with your mother-in-law. Okay, people—this is waht is wrong with me: we are not being allowed to see our grandchildren because I didn’t tell Troy to go home, but he was a 27 year old grown man with 3 children, and it was none of my business, just like nothing else they decided was my business the last 9 years. We DID “support” Troy then and both of you in anything you did for the last 9 years. That IS what parents do. I know this is probably making you angry, but I don’t have any other way of contacting you since you erase any voice mail I leave without listening to it, answer my e-mails, return calls, or even come to our house to speak to us or get all your clothes or even the kids clothes. Nothing in our house contaminates things that I know of. You didn’t even contact me back when I told you I was going to have heart surgery. See you really did break my heart by doing all this.I needed to see the kids before the surgery because you never know what might happen, but you never returned my call after I saw the cardiologist to even see when I was going in the hospital. The possibility of a heart/lung transplant was mentioned by the doctor and I was really scared. I am disappointed that you all didn’t care. Some may say that leaving a comment could make things worse, but I don’t see how anything in this world is worse than not being able to see your grandchildren!!!! Anyway, we love you and really want to be able to see the kids. We have lost a year that cannot be replaced – EVER. This is really hard on me and puts a lot of stress on me which I am not supposed to have, in addition to your Dad losing his job after 28 years when the plant was sold to a business out of state. He is under a lot of stress and still has not found a job. Your Dad needs you now, Troy—can’t you be there for him? He has always been there for you.

]]> By: Carla http://family.kentuckystudio.com/2009/11/12/for-god-has-not-given-us-a-spirit-of-fear/comment-page-1/#comment-2236 Carla Sat, 14 Nov 2009 05:31:22 +0000 http://family.kentuckystudio.com/?p=11637#comment-2236 oh....just a hint, don't ever pray for patience. God doesn't GIVE you patience, which is what you really need, He gives you the opportunity to LEARN patience. 'nough said about that. oh….just a hint, don’t ever pray for patience.

God doesn’t GIVE you patience, which is what you really need, He gives you the opportunity to LEARN patience. ‘nough said about that.

]]> By: Carla http://family.kentuckystudio.com/2009/11/12/for-god-has-not-given-us-a-spirit-of-fear/comment-page-1/#comment-2235 Carla Sat, 14 Nov 2009 05:30:39 +0000 http://family.kentuckystudio.com/?p=11637#comment-2235 or if you are like me you lay out the fleece. God, I really need you to show me that this is the path I'm really supposed to be on because, quite honestly, I am NOT feeling it. Like, if you really and truly do mean for Sarah to be our next daughter, put something like "she likes to dance" that is so random in our update and something that I like. You know Katie had "she love music and singing" and IF Sarah is meant to be, put in something like that...you know...like "she likes to dance." What was in our update? What was mentioned IN THE VIDEO? Sarah likes to dance. Well, she can dance, she just doesn't choose to right now. That second part? that was God going above and beyond for us there. That's a true description of everyone in our family. ;) I have COUNTLESS moments of this happening. or if you are like me you lay out the fleece.

God, I really need you to show me that this is the path I’m really supposed to be on because, quite honestly, I am NOT feeling it. Like, if you really and truly do mean for Sarah to be our next daughter, put something like “she likes to dance” that is so random in our update and something that I like. You know Katie had “she love music and singing” and IF Sarah is meant to be, put in something like that…you know…like “she likes to dance.”

What was in our update? What was mentioned IN THE VIDEO? Sarah likes to dance. Well, she can dance, she just doesn’t choose to right now. That second part? that was God going above and beyond for us there. That’s a true description of everyone in our family. ;)

I have COUNTLESS moments of this happening.

]]> By: Jessica http://family.kentuckystudio.com/2009/11/12/for-god-has-not-given-us-a-spirit-of-fear/comment-page-1/#comment-2232 Jessica Sat, 14 Nov 2009 04:32:00 +0000 http://family.kentuckystudio.com/?p=11637#comment-2232 Amen. Well said. I think about not having a spirit of fear often. It's a struggle. Amen. Well said. I think about not having a spirit of fear often. It’s a struggle.

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